ADDRESSING DIFFICULT TOPICS WITH WISDOM AND LOVE


"If one has courage, nothing  can dim the light which shines from within."

Maya Angelou

What happens when someone you love says or does something hurts your feelings very deeply? Do you immediately respond in like manner, stinging him or her with biting words of retaliation? Do you storm off to another room to cry, or phone a friend and go over what happened to you blow by blow? There was a time in my life where I would have done any one of these things. Through experience I have found that the only wise and loving thing I can do to resolve the issue is to address it with wisdom and love. This may take leaving the room for a while, allowing myself to think about what happened, but eventually I need to share what I felt in the moment it happened.

In my first marriage, I made a very large mistake in my checking account. I had written a check for a bill that was much more than what was really due. As a result, a check my former husband had written to his own jobsite bounced. He wouldn't talk to me for days. I finally found a way to speak to him that explained my feelings. I said to him, "I know I made an error in the checkbook. I know it was my fault, but it wasn't something I did on purpose. Your not speaking to me feels Like I am a plant that needs watering, but is about to die from thirst."  He spoke back. "I know you did not make the error on purpose. It's just that it embarrassed me at my office. I know we all can make mistakes."

Do you have friends or family members who make comments to you abound things happening in the world around you today that you disagree with? Do you sit silently by and say nothing about it? Or, do you tell them there are many people, including you, that feel differently about the situation; maybe, that you need to agree to disagree? 

If this happens to you very often, perhaps now is the time to find friends and family who share you views and voice them openly, with wisdom, love and positive action.

"...everything in our personal experience depends upon our mental and emotional reactions to life, and our deepest realization of the intimate relationship we have with the infinite...We do think, our thought is creative, and as a result our life is what we make it."

Sandra Lindsey Smith,                        --Life's Garden Grows

How do you deal with things that hurt your feelings, do you swallow them, allow them to become trapped inside you, or do you find a way to express them, relieve the pressure by sharing the way those words or actions make you feel. There is a mind-body connection that improves each time you value own feelings.

Love, light, and wisdom,

Rev Sandy

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